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            <title type="html"><![CDATA[Dividing mountain property and vacation homes in a Colorado divorce]]></title>
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            <id>https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/?p=47945</id>
            <updated>2026-05-16T19:50:14Z</updated>
            <published>2026-05-16T19:50:14Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[Mountain properties and vacation homes can be as important to address in a Colorado divorce as the primary residence where spouses live together. Vacation homes often command premium prices due to their proximity to popular attractions and high-demand markets. They can be sources of revenue for the family. They also tend to have many happy memories attached to them, leading…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/blog/2026/05/dividing-mountain-property-and-vacation-homes-in-a-colorado-divorce/"><![CDATA[Mountain properties and vacation homes can be as important to address in a Colorado divorce as the primary residence where spouses live together. Vacation homes often command premium prices due to their proximity to popular attractions and high-demand markets.

They can be sources of revenue for the family. They also tend to have many happy memories attached to them, leading to emotional disputes between spouses. Understanding the challenges of addressing real estate in the mountains and vacation homes can make it easier for people to navigate property division proceedings effectively in a Colorado divorce.
<h2>When are vacation properties divisible?</h2>
Real estate holdings are often part of the marital estate. Even if one spouse owned the vacation home or mountain property before marriage, the property likely appreciated in value during the marriage. The increase in value may be part of the marital estate even if the original fair market value of the home or cabin is the separate property of one spouse.

Under Colorado's <a href="https://www.investopedia.com/terms/e/equitable-division.asp" data-wpel-link="external" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">equitable division standards</a>, any assets acquired during marriage or with marital income are likely subject to division. The equity accrued or the price appreciation that occurred during marriage is often divisible. In cases where spouses bought the property during the marriage, its entire value may be marital, even if the deed only features one spouse’s name.

Valuing mountain properties and cabins can be difficult. Unlike urban homes, there may not be many recent sales of comparable properties to use as a baseline for valuation. Real estate professionals may struggle to effectively calculate the fair market value for the property, especially if the couple has invested in prestige finishes and other valuable improvements.

Additionally, spouses may need to factor in any income generated by their mountain properties and vacation homes. Savvy owners frequently offer their properties as short-term rentals on platforms such as VRBO and Airbnb. They may need to factor that income into property division and financial support arrangements.

Partnering with an experienced <a href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/divorce/high-net-worth-divorce/" data-wpel-link="internal">high-net-worth divorce attorney</a> can help Colorado property owners protect their finances during a divorce. Those with mountain properties and vacation homes may need support valuing their holdings and negotiating arrangements that are reasonable when addressing those valuable assets, and that’s okay.

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            <title type="html"><![CDATA[Coercive Control Impact on Colorado Custody]]></title>
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            <id>https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/?p=47944</id>
            <updated>2026-04-20T02:10:18Z</updated>
            <published>2026-04-20T02:10:18Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[Coercive control is increasingly recognized as a serious form of non-physical abuse that can shape custody decisions in Colorado. While many people associate domestic abuse with physical violence, Colorado courts consider a broader range of behaviors when determining a child’s best interests. Patterns of intimidation, isolation, financial control and psychological manipulation can all influence how parenting responsibilities are allocated. Colorado’s…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/blog/2026/04/coercive-control-impact-on-colorado-custody/"><![CDATA[<span style="font-weight: 400">Coercive control is increasingly recognized as a serious form of non-physical abuse that can shape custody decisions in Colorado. While many people associate domestic abuse with physical violence, Colorado courts consider a broader range of behaviors when determining a child’s best interests. Patterns of intimidation, isolation, financial control and psychological manipulation can all influence how parenting responsibilities are allocated.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400">Colorado’s best-interests analysis looks at the ability of each parent to support their child’s emotional and developmental needs, as well as the history of each parent’s conduct toward the other parent and the child. </span><a href="https://psychcentral.com/health/coercive-control" data-wpel-link="external" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"><span style="font-weight: 400">When coercive control is an issue</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400">, it can raise concerns about a parent’s willingness to foster a healthy relationship between their child and the child’s other parent. Courts may also consider whether a parent’s behavior creates an environment of fear, instability or emotional harm, even in the absence of physical abuse.</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400">Spotting and acting upon coercive control issues </span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400">Recognizing the red flags of coercive control is an important first step. These behaviors may include monitoring communications, restricting access to friends or family, controlling finances, making threats related to custody or consistently undermining the other parent’s authority in front of the child. A parent engaging in coercive control may also manipulate schedules, interfere with parenting time and use the child as a means of control by relaying messages or creating loyalty conflicts.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400">Keeping detailed records of incidents can help establish patterns over time. This may include saving text messages, emails and voicemails that demonstrate controlling or threatening behavior. Maintaining a journal of interactions, missed parenting time and concerning statements made to or around a child can also provide valuable context. Third-party observations, such as reports from teachers, counselors or childcare providers, may further support concerns about a child’s well-being.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400">When circumstances change or new information comes to light, these records can form the basis for a custody modification request. Colorado courts generally require a showing that a modification is in the child’s best interests and that there has been a significant change in circumstances. Evidence of ongoing coercive control may meet this threshold, particularly if it affects a child’s emotional health or the co-parenting dynamic.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400">Addressing coercive control in custody matters requires both careful documentation and a clear legal strategy. By recognizing the signs early, preserving evidence and </span><a href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/family-law/child-custody-parenting-time/" data-wpel-link="internal"><span style="font-weight: 400">seeking knowledgeable legal guidance</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400">, parents can better advocate for arrangements that prioritize safety, stability and the long-term well-being of their children. </span>]]></content>
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									                    <name>On Behalf of Law Offices of Shawn H. Smith</name>
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            <title type="html"><![CDATA[Stay-at-Home Parents in Colorado Divorce Cases]]></title>
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            <id>https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/?p=47935</id>
            <updated>2026-03-12T16:11:23Z</updated>
            <published>2026-03-12T16:11:23Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[Divorce can feel financially terrifying for a stay-at-home parent. The parent who bypasses career advancement to raise the children often fears the divorce will result in limited income, reduced retirement savings and a resume gap that the job market punishes. This is not always the case. Colorado courts do not promise a 50/50 split. Colorado uses equitable distribution, meaning a…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/blog/2026/03/stay-at-home-parents-in-colorado-divorce-cases/"><![CDATA[Divorce<span style="font-weight: 400;"> can feel financially terrifying for a stay-at-home parent. The parent who bypasses career advancement to raise the children often fears the divorce will result in limited income, reduced retirement savings and a resume gap that the job market punishes. This is not always the case. Colorado courts do not promise a 50/50 split. Colorado uses equitable distribution, meaning a fair division based on circumstances. The law recognizes homemaking as real work and judges can take that into account when making their determination. However, it is important to note that judges still require credible proof of contributions, needs and future earning capacity.</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">Equitable distribution basics</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Colorado divides marital property under </span><a href="https://codes.findlaw.com/co/title-14-domestic-matters/co-rev-st-sect-14-10-113/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" data-wpel-link="external"><span style="font-weight: 400;">C.R.S. §14-10-113</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> in a means the court deems just, not equal. “Marital property” generally includes assets and debts acquired during the marriage, regardless of which spouse earned the money or held title. The court weighs statutory factors such as the length of the marriage, each spouse’s economic circumstances at the time of division, each spouse’s contribution to acquiring marital assets and any increase or decrease in value of separate property.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">Evidence matters for stay-at-home parents. Courts can credit homemaking contributions, yet the outcome often turns on documentation showing how the household operated, what the stay-at-home spouse sacrificed and what the financial picture looks like now.</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">Valued non-financial roles</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Child-rearing and household management count as contributions to the marriage and to marital wealth. That recognition affects property division and also supports claims for spousal maintenance. Under C.R.S. §14-10-114, the court evaluates maintenance using factors that include the marital standard of living, the duration of the marriage, the requesting spouse’s financial resources and ability to meet reasonable needs and the other spouse’s ability to pay.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">Income issues often arise. The court may impute income if a spouse is voluntarily underemployed, yet imputation should reflect realistic job prospects, training needs and childcare constraints, not wishful earning assumptions.</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">Financial protection steps</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Stay-at-home parents should treat divorce preparation like case building. The following steps often strengthen financial outcomes. These items can serve as a planning checklist before temporary orders or settlement talks:</span>
<ul>
 	<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Document career sacrifices and lost opportunities using resumes, prior pay records and correspondence about relocation or childcare decisions  </span></li>
 	<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Request a vocational evaluation when employability or imputed income is disputed  </span></li>
 	<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Seek property offsets for retirement accounts, home equity or debt allocation when monthly cash flow will be limited after divorce</span></li>
</ul>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">These steps can help stay-at-home parents set themselves up for a successful case and transition</span><a href="https://hermoney.com/connect/marriage/6-tips-for-stay-at-home-moms-starting-over-after-a-divorce/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" data-wpel-link="external"><span style="font-weight: 400;"> into life after divorce </span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">when paired with accurate budgets and supportable timelines for reentering the workforce.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">Colorado law protects stay-at-home parents through equitable distribution principles and maintenance statutes, yet protection is evidence-driven. Document non-financial contributions, document economic needs and challenge unrealistic income assumptions. Understanding rights under Colorado law can help stay-at-home parents to </span><a href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/divorce/" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-wpel-link="internal"><span style="font-weight: 400;">advocate for a fair share</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> of marital assets and support. </span>]]></content>
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									                    <name>On Behalf of Law Offices of Shawn H. Smith</name>
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            <title type="html"><![CDATA[Remarrying After Divorce: Legal &#038; Financial Tips in Colorado]]></title>
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            <id>https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/?p=47909</id>
            <updated>2025-10-10T09:04:33Z</updated>
            <published>2025-10-10T09:04:33Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[In Colorado, you can remarry as soon as your divorce becomes final. Before doing so, understand how remarriage can affect your court orders, finances and estate plans. Making a few updates now can prevent future legal or financial problems. Legal process for remarrying after divorce Once the court issues your final decree of dissolution of marriage, you’re legally free to…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/blog/2025/10/remarrying-after-divorce-legal-financial-tips-in-colorado/"><![CDATA[<span style="font-weight: 400;">In Colorado, you can remarry as soon as your divorce becomes final. Before doing so, understand how remarriage can affect your court orders, finances and estate plans. Making a few updates now can prevent future legal or financial problems.</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">Legal process for remarrying after divorce</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Once the court issues your final decree of dissolution of marriage, you’re legally free to remarry in Colorado. The state doesn’t require a waiting period but you must show proof that your previous marriage ended.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">To get a new marriage license, both partners must appear at the county clerk’s office, show valid ID and pay a small filing fee.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">Before applying, make sure all prior court orders are current. Review your alimony, child support and parenting agreements to confirm they meet Colorado law. For instance, maintenance (alimony) usually ends when the supported spouse remarries as stated in </span><a href="https://codes.findlaw.com/co/title-14-domestic-matters/co-rev-st-sect-14-10-122/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" data-wpel-link="external"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Colorado Revised Statutes 14-10-122</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">Financial and legal planning before remarriage</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Remarriage can change your financial situation. Discuss how you’ll handle income, expenses and existing debts with your new spouse before combining finances. Update your legal and financial documents to reflect your new household plan.</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">Key updates to consider before remarrying</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Ensure your financial and estate plans match your new marital status. Take these steps:</span>
<ul>
 	<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>Estate plan:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Update wills, trusts and powers of attorney to include your new spouse.</span></li>
 	<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>Beneficiaries:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Review life insurance, retirement accounts and payable-on-death accounts.</span></li>
 	<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>Insurance:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Check health, auto and homeowners policies to list both spouses correctly.</span></li>
 	<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>Prenuptial agreement:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Consider a prenup if you have major assets, a business or children from a prior marriage.</span></li>
 	<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>Budget and property review:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Evaluate your assets and debts to decide what’s joint and what remains separate.</span></li>
</ul>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">These updates can protect your finances and prevent disputes later.</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">Preparing for a smooth transition</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Remarrying can feel like a fresh start but it also brings new legal and financial responsibilities. Before you get married again, double-check your court orders, money plans and estate documents to make sure everything is up to date. A Colorado family law attorney can explain how remarriage might </span><a href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/divorce/" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-wpel-link="internal"><span style="font-weight: 400;">change your rights</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> and obligations.</span>]]></content>
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            <title type="html"><![CDATA[Do I have to pay child support if I lose my job in Colorado?]]></title>
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            <id>https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/?p=47893</id>
            <updated>2025-08-12T15:39:01Z</updated>
            <published>2025-08-14T15:27:56Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[Losing a job is tough, especially when you have child support obligations. Many parents wonder, “Do I still have to pay child support in Colorado?” The answer is yes, you do. Losing your job doesn’t automatically cancel your child support duties. But don’t worry, you have options. Involuntary vs. voluntary job loss Job loss can be involuntary or voluntary, and…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/blog/2025/08/do-i-have-to-pay-child-support-if-i-lose-my-job-in-colorado/"><![CDATA[<span data-preserver-spaces="true">Losing a job is tough, especially when you have child support obligations. Many parents wonder, "Do I still have to pay child support in Colorado?" The answer is yes, you do. Losing your job doesn't automatically cancel your child support duties. But don't worry, you have options.</span>
<h2><span data-preserver-spaces="true">Involuntary vs. voluntary job loss</span></h2>
<span data-preserver-spaces="true">Job loss can be involuntary or voluntary, and this distinction </span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">matters</span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">.</span><span data-preserver-spaces="true"> If you lose your job involuntarily, like being laid off or fired, you can ask the court to </span><a class="editor-rtfLink" href="https://www.coloradojudicial.gov/self-help/change-court-orders/change-child-support" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" data-wpel-link="external"><span data-preserver-spaces="true">modify your child support payments</span></a><span data-preserver-spaces="true">. This adjustment can help fit your new financial situation.</span>

<span data-preserver-spaces="true">If you quit your job voluntarily, you might still seek modification, but the court can base your payments on what you could be earning instead of your current income. </span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">This</span><span data-preserver-spaces="true"> means you might still have to pay the same amount as before.</span>
<h2><span data-preserver-spaces="true">What to do if you lose your job</span></h2>
<span data-preserver-spaces="true">When your income changes, it's crucial to file a formal request with the Colorado family court to </span><a class="editor-rtfLink" href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/modification-enforcement-of-court-orders/" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-wpel-link="internal"><span data-preserver-spaces="true">change your child support order</span></a><span data-preserver-spaces="true">. Here's what you need to do:</span>
<ul>
 	<li><span data-preserver-spaces="true">Gather proof of your job loss, like termination notices or proof of unemployment.</span></li>
 	<li><span data-preserver-spaces="true">File a request with the court to modify your child support payments.</span></li>
 	<li><span data-preserver-spaces="true">Continue paying as much as you can while the court reviews your case.</span></li>
</ul>
<span data-preserver-spaces="true">Stopping payments without court approval can lead to serious consequences </span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">like</span><span data-preserver-spaces="true"> back payments, bank garnishment and contempt of court.</span> <span data-preserver-spaces="true">It's </span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">important</span><span data-preserver-spaces="true"> to </span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">stay</span><span data-preserver-spaces="true"> proactive and responsible </span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">during</span><span data-preserver-spaces="true"> this process.</span>
<h2><span data-preserver-spaces="true">Get help if you need it</span></h2>
<span data-preserver-spaces="true">Dealing with job loss and child support can be complex. A family law attorney who knows Colorado laws can guide you through the process, help you understand your rights and make sure you take the </span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">right</span><span data-preserver-spaces="true"> steps to modify your support order.</span>

<span data-preserver-spaces="true">Remember, your goal is to support your kids while managing your new economic reality. </span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">By taking </span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">action quickly</span><span data-preserver-spaces="true"> and following the proper legal </span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">steps</span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">, you can continue to </span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">meet</span><span data-preserver-spaces="true"> your financial and parental responsibilities in a fair and manageable </span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">way</span><span data-preserver-spaces="true">.</span>]]></content>
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									                    <name>On Behalf of Law Offices of Shawn H. Smith</name>
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            <title type="html"><![CDATA[What should I do if my co-parent badmouths me to our kids?]]></title>
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            <id>https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/?p=47892</id>
            <updated>2025-11-17T20:46:23Z</updated>
            <published>2025-08-12T15:13:53Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[When a co-parent speaks negatively about you to your children, it can feel like a punch to the gut. This behavior is not just frustrating; it can deeply affect your children’s emotional well-being. In serious cases, courts may view it as parental alienation, which could impact custody arrangements. Understanding how to respond and protect yourself is crucial. Responding in the…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/blog/2025/08/what-should-i-do-if-my-co-parent-badmouths-me-to-our-kids/"><![CDATA[<span data-preserver-spaces="true">When a co-parent speaks negatively about you to your children, it can feel like a punch to the gut. This behavior is not just frustrating; it can deeply affect your children’s emotional well-being. In serious cases, courts may view it as parental alienation, which could impact custody arrangements. Understanding how to respond and protect yourself is crucial.</span>
<h2><span data-preserver-spaces="true">Responding in the moment</span></h2>
<span data-preserver-spaces="true">When your co-parent badmouths you to your children, it's natural to feel defensive or angry. However, it's crucial to remain calm and avoid retaliating, as doing so only makes the situation worse. Focus on being supportive and honest with your kids. Let them know that you love and care for them, and that you're there to support them.</span>

<span data-preserver-spaces="true">Your kids need you to be the grown-up, even when it's hard. Show them how to handle conflict with maturity and kindness.</span>
<h2><span data-preserver-spaces="true">Reassure your children</span></h2>
<span data-preserver-spaces="true">Your kids might feel confused or upset after hearing negative things about you. You can help them by:</span>
<ul>
 	<li><span data-preserver-spaces="true">Listening without judgment</span></li>
 	<li><span data-preserver-spaces="true">Validating their feelings</span></li>
 	<li><span data-preserver-spaces="true">Reminding them that both parents love them</span></li>
 	<li><span data-preserver-spaces="true">Considering counseling for your child</span></li>
</ul>
<span data-preserver-spaces="true">Focus on building a strong, loving relationship with your children. This positive connection will help them weather the storm of conflict between their parents and minimize the </span><a class="editor-rtfLink" href="https://pepparent.org/bad-mouthing-your-ex-the-long-term-effects-on-children/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" data-wpel-link="external"><span data-preserver-spaces="true">long-term negative effects of bad-mouthin</span></a><span data-preserver-spaces="true">g.</span>
<h2><span data-preserver-spaces="true">Practical steps to protect yourself</span></h2>
<span data-preserver-spaces="true">If your co-parent continues to speak negatively about you to your children, it's essential to take practical steps to protect yourself and your kids. Document instances of negative talk. Keep notes, save texts and gather statements from others if necessary. This documentation can be crucial if the situation worsens.</span>

<span data-preserver-spaces="true">You can also consider:</span>
<ul>
 	<li><strong><span data-preserver-spaces="true">Consulting a family law attorney:</span></strong><span data-preserver-spaces="true"> Get guidance tailored to your situation.</span></li>
 	<li><strong><span data-preserver-spaces="true">Exploring legal options:</span></strong><span data-preserver-spaces="true"> Address the matter in court or </span><a class="editor-rtfLink" href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/family-law/child-custody-parenting-time/" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-wpel-link="internal"><span data-preserver-spaces="true">seek modifications to the parenting plan</span></a><span data-preserver-spaces="true"> if needed.</span></li>
 	<li><strong><span data-preserver-spaces="true">Focusing on your children’s needs:</span></strong><span data-preserver-spaces="true"> Consider counseling to help them process their feelings.</span></li>
</ul>
<span data-preserver-spaces="true">By taking these steps, you can protect your children from the harmful effects of badmouthing and ensure their emotional well-being. While you may not be able to control what your co-parent says, you can control your response and maintain steady support for your kids. This is what matters most to their well-being.</span>
<h2>FAQs</h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Custody issues are complex legal matters, and certain behaviors can impact custody arrangements. Below are answers to common questions related to parental conduct such as that discussed above.</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">#1: Can you lose custody for bad mouthing the other parent?</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Yes, consistently bad mouthing the other parent can negatively impact custody arrangements. Courts prioritize the best interests of the child, which includes maintaining a healthy relationship with both parents. If the court finds one parent to be undermining this relationship through negative comments, it can be seen as detrimental to the child's well-being.</span>

<span style="font-weight: 400;">Courts will consider whether negative remarks affect the child's emotional and psychological health and may view persistent negative comments as harmful. This could </span><a href="https://www.coloradojudicial.gov/self-help/change-court-orders/change-parenting-time" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" data-wpel-link="external"><span style="font-weight: 400;">support a request for a modification</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> of custody arrangements.</span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">#2: How does the court evaluate a parent's social media activity in custody cases?</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Courts increasingly consider </span><a href="https://www.forbes.com/sites/patriciafersch/2024/02/09/electronic-communication-and-social-media-at-trial-in-family-court/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" data-wpel-link="external"><span style="font-weight: 400;">social media activity</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> when evaluating a parent's suitability for custody. Posts that reflect poor judgment or negative behavior can influence custody decisions. Courts may review posts for evidence of irresponsible behavior, such as substance abuse or derogatory comments about the other parent. Even private posts can become public in legal proceedings. </span>
<h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">#3: What steps can I take if the other parent is not following the custody agreement?</span></h2>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">If the other parent is not adhering to the custody agreement, there are several steps you can take to address the issue:</span>
<ul>
 	<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>Document violations: </b><span style="font-weight: 400;">Keep a detailed record of each instance where the agreement is not followed, including dates and descriptions.</span></li>
 	<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>Communicate:</b><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Attempt to resolve the issue through direct communication with the other parent, if it is safe and appropriate to do so.</span></li>
 	<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>Negotiate: </b><span style="font-weight: 400;">Consider involving a neutral third-party mediator to facilitate a resolution.</span></li>
 	<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>Legal action: </b><span style="font-weight: 400;">If necessary, consult with a family law attorney to explore legal options, such as filing a motion for contempt or </span><a href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/modification-enforcement-of-court-orders/child-custody-parenting-time-modifications/" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-wpel-link="internal"><span style="font-weight: 400;">modification of the custody order</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.</span></li>
</ul>
<span style="font-weight: 400;">Understanding these aspects of custody and parental conduct can help parents navigate the legal landscape more effectively, ensuring the best possible outcomes for their children.</span>]]></content>
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									                    <name>On Behalf of Law Offices of Shawn H. Smith</name>
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            <title type="html"><![CDATA[How is Child Support Decided in Colorado?]]></title>
            <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/blog/2024/08/how-is-child-support-decided-in-colorado/" />
            <id>https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/?p=47800</id>
            <updated>2024-08-21T21:42:10Z</updated>
            <published>2024-08-21T16:53:57Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[Child support is crucial for a child’s well-being after their parents get a divorce. It ensures that both parents contribute financially to their child’s upbringing. Colorado uses a formula to determine the amount, which typically becomes the primary responsibility of the non-custodial parent. This formula helps create fairness and consistency in support payments. It considers both parents’ incomes and the…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/blog/2024/08/how-is-child-support-decided-in-colorado/"><![CDATA[Child support is crucial for a child’s well-being after their parents get a divorce. It ensures that both parents contribute financially to their child's upbringing.

Colorado uses a formula to determine the amount, which typically becomes the primary responsibility of the non-custodial parent. This formula helps create fairness and consistency in support payments. It considers both parents' incomes and the child's needs.
<h2>Factors considered in establishing child support</h2>
In Colorado, courts use <a href="https://codes.findlaw.com/co/title-14-domestic-matters/co-rev-st-sect-14-10-115/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" data-wpel-link="external">specific guidelines</a> to set child support payments. Here are the factors they consider:
<ul>
 	<li>The child’s financial needs</li>
 	<li>The custodial parent’s financial resources</li>
 	<li>The child’s standard of living had the marriage not ended</li>
 	<li>The child’s physical and emotional condition and their educational requirements</li>
 	<li>The non-custodial parent’s financial resources and needs</li>
</ul>
These factors help ensure fair support payments meeting the child's best interests.
<h2>What counts as income?</h2>
The child support formula in Colorado includes various types of income, including:
<ul>
 	<li>Salaries and wages, including tips</li>
 	<li>Commissions and bonuses</li>
 	<li>Payments received as an independent contractor</li>
 	<li>Dividends, interest and royalties</li>
 	<li>Rents and trust income</li>
 	<li>Pensions and retirement benefits</li>
 	<li>Social Security benefits and workers' compensation</li>
 	<li>Unemployment and disability insurance benefits</li>
 	<li>Monetary gifts and prizes</li>
</ul>
Support payments typically last until the child turns 19 unless certain conditions extend the obligation, such as the child still being in high school or having special needs.
<h2>Calculating child support payments</h2>
In Colorado, child support is calculated based on the parents' combined adjusted gross income and the number of children needing support. The formula allocates a percentage of the combined income to child support, based on the child's or children’s needs.

Here’s how the state typically divides responsibility:
<ul>
 	<li><strong>Total income</strong>: Both parents' adjusted gross income totals are combined.</li>
 	<li><strong>Percentage allocation</strong>: Based on the guidelines, the state allocates a percentage of this combined income for child support. For example, approximately 20% for one child, 30% for two children and so on.</li>
 	<li><strong>Proportional responsibility</strong>: Each parent’s contribution determines their share of the child support obligation. In other words, if one parent earns 60% of the total income, they will be responsible for 60% of the child support payment.</li>
</ul>
Colorado provides a free online <a href="https://www.coloradojudicial.gov/self-help/calculate-support-payments" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" data-wpel-link="external">child support calculator</a>, allowing parents to get an estimate of their potential payments. This tool, while only an estimate, helps parents understand their financial obligations and plan accordingly.
<h2>What happens when financial circumstances change?</h2>
When either parent’s financial situation changes or the child’s needs evolve, it can affect child support. If a parent loses their job, gets a raise, or the child's medical or educational needs increase, the support amount may need adjustment.

An experienced attorney can <a href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/family-law/child-support-faqs/" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-wpel-link="internal">answer your questions</a> about child support and help ensure accurate support amounts. They can also file modifications to the original child support order if you or your co-parent’s financial circumstances change. This helps ensure the support payments remain fair and sufficient for your child's day-to-day needs.]]></content>
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									                    <name>On Behalf of Law Offices of Shawn H. Smith</name>
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            <title type="html"><![CDATA[Consider the benefits of a collaborative divorce]]></title>
            <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/blog/2024/02/consider-the-benefits-of-a-collaborative-divorce/" />
            <id>https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/?p=47746</id>
            <updated>2024-02-15T19:22:03Z</updated>
            <published>2024-02-15T19:22:03Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[By the time you make the final decision to move on in life without your spouse, you may have already come through years of turmoil in your marriage. Most people do not make such decisions on a whim, but rather, after numerous failed attempts at trying to restore their relationship. Once you decide to file for a divorce, you’re ready…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/blog/2024/02/consider-the-benefits-of-a-collaborative-divorce/"><![CDATA[<p style="font-weight: 400">By the time you make the final decision to move on in life without your spouse, you may have already come through years of turmoil in your marriage. Most people do not make such decisions on a whim, but rather, after numerous failed attempts at trying to restore their relationship. Once you decide to file for a divorce, you’re ready to begin the healing process and start afresh in life. The last thing you need is to get stuck in a long, drawn-out battle in a Colorado court.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400">The good news is that you don’t even have to go to court to finalize your divorce. There are ways to negotiate a settlement out of court. One option is to agree to a collaborative process. The first logical step to take to initiate this type of divorce is for each spouse to retain legal representation.</p>

<h2 style="font-weight: 400">Why are attorneys needed for collaborative divorce if you don’t go to court?</h2>
<p style="font-weight: 400">The collaborative <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/a-better-divorce/202303/why-consider-a-collaborative-divorce" data-wpel-link="external" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">divorce process was created in the 1990s</a>. It began with two attorneys who agreed to come together on behalf of their two clients to negotiate a settlement without litigation. It worked so well that more and more spouses wanted to do the same, and it became a staple alternative option available to spouses who want to avoid going to court to finalize their divorce.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400">Since its inception, collaborative divorce includes spouses who wish to end their marriage, the attorneys who agree to negotiate on their behalf, and any other team members one or the other spouse wishes to include, such as a child specialist, financial adviser or divorce coach.</p>

<h2 style="font-weight: 400">Collaborative divorce versus mediation</h2>
<p style="font-weight: 400">A <a href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/divorce/" data-wpel-link="internal">collaborative divorce</a> is like mediation in several ways. Both processes occur outside a courtroom in private settings. However, a mediated divorce typically includes a neutral third party who facilitates discussion sessions. As mentioned earlier, each spouse hires an attorney to act on his or her behalf in a collaborative divorce, which makes it different from mediation.</p>

<h2 style="font-weight: 400">Talking to your spouse about the option</h2>
<p style="font-weight: 400">If you’re wondering how to approach the topic of a collaborative divorce with your spouse over litigation or other options, you might want to mention the benefits shown in the following list:</p>

<ul>
 	<li>If you have children, a collaborative divorce might be less stressful for them, since it demonstrates parental willingness to work together as a team to achieve a settlement, rather than fight it out in a public courtroom.</li>
 	<li>Collaborative divorce is an alternative dispute resolution process, which is typically much less expensive than litigation.</li>
 	<li>Settling your divorce out-of-court will probably take less time than litigation.</li>
 	<li>Collaboration is a peaceful way to end your relationship and move on in life.</li>
</ul>
<p style="font-weight: 400">Divorce isn’t easy, but it doesn’t have to be an ugly, stressful process. If you and your spouse are willing to cooperate and compromise to negotiate property division, child custody and other important issues, and would like to accomplish your goals in the swiftest and most economically feasible way possible, then the collaborative process might be a good fit for you.</p>]]></content>
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									                    <name>On Behalf of Law Offices of Shawn H. Smith</name>
				            </author>
            <title type="html"><![CDATA[Divorcing a narcissist? Keep this in mind]]></title>
            <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/blog/2024/01/divorcing-a-narcissist-keep-this-in-mind/" />
            <id>https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/?p=47732</id>
            <updated>2024-01-30T18:28:02Z</updated>
            <published>2024-01-29T23:35:22Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[As 2024 unfolds, you might be among others in Colorado who have made a life-changing decision. Perhaps you’ve decided to switch careers or to sell your house. Maybe you’ve decided that filing for a divorce would be better than staying in an unhappy marriage to a narcissist. If you can relate to this issue, there are several things you’ll want…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/blog/2024/01/divorcing-a-narcissist-keep-this-in-mind/"><![CDATA[<span data-contrast="auto">As 2024 unfolds, you might be among others in Colorado who have made a life-changing decision. Perhaps you’ve decided to switch careers or to sell your house. Maybe you’ve decided that filing for a divorce would be better than staying in an unhappy marriage to a narcissist. If you can relate to this issue, there are several things you’ll want to keep in mind as you navigate legal proceedings because divorcing a narcissist can cause delays and other problems toward achieving a fair settlement. </span><span data-ccp-props="{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:254}"> </span>

<span data-contrast="auto">While narcissism refers to a pattern of behavior and not a specific legal issue, divorce can get messy when it is a factor due to things a narcissistic spouse might do to try to take revenge or gain the upper hand in child custody or property division proceedings. If you’re divorcing a narcissist, you are wise to take precautions. </span><span data-ccp-props="{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:254}"> </span>
<h2>Avoid conflict when divorcing a narcissist</h2>
<span data-contrast="auto">As you likely learned during your marriage, a narcissist often goes to great lengths to bait people into conflict so that they can turn around and blame them for their problems. This is the last thing you need when you’re trying to negotiate a divorce settlement. The good news is that you know this is </span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/legal-matters/202309/how-to-divorce-a-narcissist" data-wpel-link="external" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"><span data-contrast="none">typical behavior for a narcissist</span></a><span data-contrast="auto">, so you can take steps to avoid conflict, such as restricting correspondence with your ex to test messaging, email or other written formats.</span><span data-ccp-props="{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:254}"> </span>
<h2>Limit discussion to necessary issues only</h2>
<a href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/divorce/" data-wpel-link="internal"><span data-contrast="none">Divorcing a narcissist</span></a><span data-contrast="auto"> will be less stressful if you limit your discussions to issues that are necessary to achieve a fair settlement. If you have children, such issues will include custody, visitation and, perhaps, child support. This doesn’t mean you have to talk about rules you plan to have in your own household, social events or other non-related issues. The broader the topic, the more room you leave for your ex to spark confrontation. Restrict communication to issues that are necessary for settlement. </span><span data-ccp-props="{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:254}"> </span>
<h2>Ask a third party to be present when you meet in person</h2>
<span data-contrast="auto">If you don’t feel capable of handling in-person meetings with your ex on your own, you can ask a third party to be present. This might be a trusted family member, friend or legal advocate. In cases where domestic violence has occurred, you may request a restraining order or to have a law enforcement officer present at every meeting.</span><span data-ccp-props="{&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335559739&quot;:160,&quot;335559740&quot;:254}"> </span>

<span data-contrast="auto">Divorcing a narcissist can be complex and highly stressful, especially if your ex is trying to turn your children away from you or keep you from getting all that you’re entitled to for property division. Seeking outside support is often the best way to remain calm and move forward with proceedings without getting involved in the drama your ex is trying to create. <strong>Contact [nap_names id="FIRM-NAME-1"] at [nap_phone id="LOCAL-CT-NUMBER-1"] or <a href="/contact/" data-wpel-link="internal">via email</a> for a free and confidential consultation.</strong></span>]]></content>
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	        <entry>
            <author>
									                    <name>On Behalf of Law Offices of Shawn H. Smith</name>
				            </author>
            <title type="html"><![CDATA[Older couples do not have to go to court to divorce]]></title>
            <link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/blog/2023/08/older-couples-do-not-have-to-go-to-court-to-divorce/" />
            <id>https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/?p=47713</id>
            <updated>2024-07-16T16:35:51Z</updated>
            <published>2023-08-31T14:23:04Z</published>
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            <summary type="html"><![CDATA[There is no reason that two people who have been married for decades, have raised a family together, and know pretty much all there is to know about each other should have to go their separate ways in a knock-down, drag-out legal battle. If they want to end their marriage, there are resources available to help them avoid confrontation. If…]]></summary>
			                <content type="html" xml:base="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/blog/2023/08/older-couples-do-not-have-to-go-to-court-to-divorce/"><![CDATA[<p style="font-weight: 400;">There is no reason that two people who have been married for decades, have raised a family together, and know pretty much all there is to know about each other should have to go their separate ways in a knock-down, drag-out legal battle. If they want to end their marriage, there are resources available to help them avoid confrontation. If you’re older and wish to file for divorce, you might want to consider mediation as an alternative option.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">The American Psychological Association has stated that mediation can be the basis for a healthy divorce. It occurs in a private setting where both spouses are free to speak their minds if they do so in a non-confrontational manner. This is typically a lot less stressful than airing your differences in a public courtroom setting. The APA says research shows that children whose parents use mediation to divorce have an easier time adapting to their life changes.</p>

<h2 style="font-weight: 400;">A neutral party helps facilitate mediation discussions</h2>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">If you are an older couple, you might say that you have a “lot of water under the bridge” in your marriage. Through the years, you no doubt encountered numerous challenges in your relationship. It’s okay to disagree. However, if you want to keep stress to a minimum as you finalize your <a href="/divorce/" data-wpel-link="internal">divorce</a>, mediation can be beneficial. During sessions, you can invite a neutral third party to be present.</p>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">His or her job is to get you back on track if discussions veer off the path and start heading toward an argument. The mediator does not make decisions for you, as an arbitrator or judge would. Mediation is non-binding, as well, which means that, if you believe it’s not working, you cannot be forced to continue.</p>

<h2 style="font-weight: 400;">Older spouses have issues that don’t affect younger spouses</h2>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">As a couple filing for divorce after many years, you might have acquired many assets. Financial issues will likely be a central focus of your <a href="https://onedrive.live.com/edit.aspx?action=editnew&amp;resid=62B4845EA59AF233!7609&amp;ithint=file%2cdocx&amp;action=editnew&amp;ct=1693174621195&amp;wdNewAndOpenCt=1693174618727&amp;wdPreviousSession=7043feb5-96fd-409a-93f2-63536eecd92b&amp;wdOrigin=OFFICECOM-WEB.MAIN.NEW&amp;wdPreviousSessionSrc=HarmonyWeb&amp;wdo=2" data-wpel-link="external" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">mediation sessions</a>. You likely have grown children who are on their own, so you won’t have the typical child custody issues to resolve that a younger couple might.</p>

<h2 style="font-weight: 400;">You can convert a mediated divorce to litigation when necessary</h2>
<p style="font-weight: 400;">What if you’ve been meeting in a private setting in Pennsylvania to mediate your divorce, and you think it’s not working? Another benefit to the mediation process is that you can end it at any time. You can convert this type of <a href="https://www.shawnhsmithlaw.com/family-law/mediation/" data-wpel-link="internal">alternative dispute resolution</a> to a litigated case.</p>]]></content>
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